Some of you may have discovered that your husband has been watching porn and you wonder if he no longer finds you attractive or whether it is your fault.
Let me give you 3 scenarios of how a married man (and possibly your husband) can get entangled into porn:
Scenario #1 – The Hardworking Husband
He may be a business guy writing proposals or a computer programmer that works a lot on the computer. By the time he finishes his proposal, it’s late and his entire body is tired. When he gets tired, he wants to de-stress. You, the wife could be already sleeping with the kids in the master bedroom. Nobody’s looking and nobody’s judging, so he fiddles with his penis and feels more relaxed from the stress burdened from his work. He sees that his computer monitor is still on. The Internet is still connected. He searches for porn, visits the site, sees a sexy and naked woman. He finishes the de-stress process with a fantasy imagination of having sex with the porn star in place of the male porn actor. After he is done with the sin, he cleans up the mess, and creeps into the master bedroom, asking forgiveness from God. He feels guilty to you, but he thinks that it will all go away by waking up the next morning without you knowing it.
Scenario #2 – The Gamer Husband
His favorite game could be an online Massively Multi-Player Online Role-Playing Game (MMORPG) or a first person army shooter, etc. He tells you to sleep first, as that was his leisure day, a day off from the kids, and to chill online. He plays the game, gets tired, and the rest of the story goes similar with Scenario #1.
Scenario #3 – The Downloader Husband
He likes to download movies and games. He visits a torrent site. There is a banner with a lady teasing him to click it. He clicks it, and ends up in the site. The voices of the sex tempting demons take over, and he masturbates and gets addicted with bondage.
Occassionally, when he does it too often and too guilty, he try and justify a way out. He does it by cropping a porn star body, with your head image and combine it, and does his masturbation on it. Seems harmless, but over time, he has less sex and intimacy with you, and that causes and opens up a whole new bunch of relationship challenges. Sometimes, you find that he may have ignored you because he needs less and less sexual intimacy from you, and you wonder what’s wrong.
How then can you restore your marriage and set boundaries for tough love? If you know your husband is struggling with porn addiction, please download this e-book “Porn And Your Husband” (click on the text) and I’m sure you will be blessed.