The Comparison Trap


comparison-is-the-thief-of-joyIn this age where social media is a huge part of our daily life, we can’t help but fall into a trap; “The Comparison Trap”. We are bombarded by postings from family and friends; from the meals they cook for their family to the holiday they are enjoying overseas while some of us are just trying to get through the day staying sane and some struggling to pay their bills.

I’m not saying that people should not post and share about their lives, I’m writing to those who see those posts and starts comparing and feel bad about their own lives.

You see, when we compare our lives with others and wish for what we don’t have rather than being contented for what we have, we are in danger of having covetousness in our hearts. We want what other people have and this will rob us of our Joy. Sometimes I fall into this trap especially towards the end of the schooling year as parents will post photos of their children receiving awards in school and my girls will have no opportunity to shine in that way (I’m not saying my girls are not bright students, we are taking a different path from the norm), so I have to remind myself that while academics excellence is good, having good character is better. A person with admirable character will go further in life and that is enough motivation to keep me on course of the plans we have for our girls.

So I discovered a profound quote by Theodore Roosevelt today, that “comparison is the thief of joy” and would like to encourage you to NOT compare yourself with others, always remember that YOU ARE FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE and Contentment does not mean that you desire nothing; but rather it’s the simple decision to be happy with what you have.

Don’t fall into the comparison trap.

Have a blessed weekend and God bless.

What Are You Believing In?


I watched the movie Trolls with my girls when it opened in the cinemas, my husband and I wasn’t expecting much from this movie. It turns out to be a great movie, we adults enjoyed it as much as our girls did.

All of us have something called belief system. Belief systems are the stories we tell ourselves to define our personal sense of Reality. You see the actions which we take is usually based on a belief system which we already have and it is usually formed through what others tell us and through our own experiences.

You see in the movie, the trolls are a bunch of small happy creatures who loves to sing and dance and also hug all day long and there is another large creature called bergen who has never felt happy before and discovered that they can feel happy for a moment if they were to eat a troll. The bergens  “believed” that they can feel happy when they eat a troll but in actual fact as mentioned in the movie that “Happiness is inside all of us, sometimes you just need someone to help you find it” and when this was made known to the bergens, they realized that they didn’t need to eat a troll to be happy.

I strongly recommend you to watch the movie with your family. Now that I have kids, I watch movie in a different light, not just for entertainment but looking out for lessons which we can extract from the story and also the characters.

We need to examine our beliefs from time to time to check if what we are believing in is the truth or a lie and when we discover that what we have been believing in is a lie, we HAVE to replace that lie with the TRUTH.

What are you believing in?

Truth Will Set You Free