The Comparison Trap

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comparison-is-the-thief-of-joyIn this age where social media is a huge part of our daily life, we can’t help but fall into a trap; “The Comparison Trap”. We are bombarded by postings from family and friends; from the meals they cook for their family to the holiday they are enjoying overseas while some of us are just trying to get through the day staying sane and some struggling to pay their bills.

I’m not saying that people should not post and share about their lives, I’m writing to those who see those posts and starts comparing and feel bad about their own lives.

You see, when we compare our lives with others and wish for what we don’t have rather than being contented for what we have, we are in danger of having covetousness in our hearts. We want what other people have and this will rob us of our Joy. Sometimes I fall into this trap especially towards the end of the schooling year as parents will post photos of their children receiving awards in school and my girls will have no opportunity to shine in that way (I’m not saying my girls are not bright students, we are taking a different path from the norm), so I have to remind myself that while academics excellence is good, having good character is better. A person with admirable character will go further in life and that is enough motivation to keep me on course of the plans we have for our girls.

So I discovered a profound quote by Theodore Roosevelt today, that “comparison is the thief of joy” and would like to encourage you to NOT compare yourself with others, always remember that YOU ARE FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE and Contentment does not mean that you desire nothing; but rather it’s the simple decision to be happy with what you have.

Don’t fall into the comparison trap.

Have a blessed weekend and God bless.

What Are You Believing In?

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I watched the movie Trolls with my girls when it opened in the cinemas, my husband and I wasn’t expecting much from this movie. It turns out to be a great movie, we adults enjoyed it as much as our girls did.

All of us have something called belief system. Belief systems are the stories we tell ourselves to define our personal sense of Reality. You see the actions which we take is usually based on a belief system which we already have and it is usually formed through what others tell us and through our own experiences.

You see in the movie, the trolls are a bunch of small happy creatures who loves to sing and dance and also hug all day long and there is another large creature called bergen who has never felt happy before and discovered that they can feel happy for a moment if they were to eat a troll. The bergens  “believed” that they can feel happy when they eat a troll but in actual fact as mentioned in the movie that “Happiness is inside all of us, sometimes you just need someone to help you find it” and when this was made known to the bergens, they realized that they didn’t need to eat a troll to be happy.

I strongly recommend you to watch the movie with your family. Now that I have kids, I watch movie in a different light, not just for entertainment but looking out for lessons which we can extract from the story and also the characters.

We need to examine our beliefs from time to time to check if what we are believing in is the truth or a lie and when we discover that what we have been believing in is a lie, we HAVE to replace that lie with the TRUTH.

What are you believing in?

Truth Will Set You Free

How To Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be

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Isn’t it fascinating that personal development started when we were still in our mother’s womb, I found an article on “What babies learn in the womb” (click on the link) and wonder why do most adults stop learning. My best guess is that they are comfortable being where they are and thus “decided” that this is who I am, this is all that I can offer the world thus they stop developing themselves and then they wonder why they are living a mediocre life and envy successful people.

When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things. 1 Corinthians 13:11

Imagine what would happen to a child or even a baby when he/she finds no pleasure in developing itself? For all it’s life, it has to depend on it’s parents/caregivers to provide for it’s needs and will never contribute back to society. I’m sure that didn’t happen and you would have put your mind and soul to study, learn, develop and achieve what you currently have and posses.

I for one have been living a comfortable life and thus I stopped growing. When you stop growing, you don’t think you have anything of value which you can share and that was what happened to me. It wasn’t easy and with encouragement from my husband, I pushed myself to start developing myself by reading and listening to podcast by successful people. He has the gift of exhortation, which is to motivate and inspire people to be better individuals.

Personal development is an essential part of life, Jesus himself is into personal development, as stated in Luke 2:52 “And Jesus kept increasing in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men.”

Make it a habit to learn something each day no matter how small and in time, I am sure you will look back and be amazed at how much you have grown and able to achieve more than you have ever dream of.

Our Mindset

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PositiveThoughtsChangeLifeOur mind……is like a sponge absorbing anything that we willing put into it; the movie we watch, the music we listen to, the materials we read will shape our minds.

If we adults are not careful over what we put into our minds, how then can we expect our children to have the “right mindset” towards life? We can’t pass on to them what we don’t have therefore it is vital for us to fill our minds with good and positive elements so we can pass on a rich heritage to our children.

How else to change our minds when there are so many negativism in our culture and in the world? We can do this by making a conscience effort…

  1. to change our habits – get rid of old bad habits by replacing it with habits which will benefit you.
  2. to determine how we spend our time – are we spending our time nurturing our soul, our children and self development?
  3. to choose who we spend our time with – if you spend time with negative people, you will be negative, if you spend time with people who build each other up, everyone will benefit from that friendship.

Our mind is indeed a very powerful tool which we possess. Many times when my kids say “I can’t.” I’ll tell them “if you think you can’t, then you can’t. If you think you can, you will surely find a way.” And when they change their mind from thinking “I can’t” to “I can”, there were able to solve the challenge which they were facing.

Many times, people’s lives change when they have an “AHA moment”, a time when their mind switch from impossible to possible from “I can’t” to “I can, I should, I have to” and that is when we say…the rest is history……

What else do I have to say so I can change your MIND?

Our First Mobile App

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It took us one month to do this…and now it is finally published on Google Play! The iOS version is in review.

This is just a prototype and we are adding features in to the next version to make it more interesting.

Click here to go to Google Play Store http://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.sowingappstudio.monstertoyclaw

If you download and play, do let us know what you think of it so we can improve.

Hope you have fun playing the game.

Thanks in advanced.

Why hosting your own blog is the way to go.

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Today I want to share with you the benefits of hosting your OWN blog versus hosting your blog on a free weblog publishing platform like blogspot also known as blogger.com.

All businesses and individuals alike is into minimizing cost and maximizing profit so why would one want to spend money to buy a domain, pay for hosting (yearly cost) and then employ a web designer to set up and design their blog, when all these can be done immediately and best of all, without any cost incurred.

So why spend money when you can get it for free?

  1. A blog or website is a virtual asset, not a liability. It can help you generate an income so it is definitely worth to invest some money in this virtual asset.
  2. Hosting your own blog will go a long way as you will have your own back up while using a free weblog, you will be at their mercy. If they find the information on your blog violates their terms for what ever reason, they can just bring your blog down without prior warning.
  3. You will be able to personalize the design of your blog when your host your own blog where most free weblog’s design are limited and plain.

Are you all pumped up to host your own blog but don’t know where to start? Below are some links to get you started:

Domain from 1&1 Hosting

(click here —>> http://goo.gl/3gEvqM)

Hosting package that offers you a FREE domain from 1&1 Hosting

(click here —>> http://goo.gl/aVd6ge)

I hope this will motivate you to start your blog and on your way to make money online.

All the best to your new venture